SET GOALS
Tip 1: Plan Ahead - Do a little homework! Research the company and the position if possible, as well, the people you will meet with at the interview. Review your work experiences. Be ready to support past career accomplishments with specific information targeted toward the companies needs. Have your facts ready!
Tips 2: Role Play - Once you have finished studying, being role playing (rehearsing). Use the general questions provided below in the Interview Preparation Area. Write down answers if it helps to make your presentation more concise. Try to keep your answers to the information your new employer will want to know.
Tips 3: Eye Contact - Maintain eye contact with your interviewer. Show you want the job with your interest.
Tips 4: Be Positive - In particular, avoid negative comments about past employers.
Tips 5: Adapt - Listen and adapt. Be sensitive to the style of the interviewer. Pay attention to those details of dress, office furniture, and general décor which will afford helpful clues to assist you in tailoring your presentation.
Tips 6: Relate - Try to relate your answers to the interviewer and his or her company. Focus on achievements relevant to the position.
Tips 7: Encourage - Encourage the interviewer to share information about his or her company. Demonstrate your interest. Some suggested questions to ask the interviewer are provided in the "Questions you could consider asking the employer" section.
Tips 2: Role Play - Once you have finished studying, being role playing (rehearsing). Use the general questions provided below in the Interview Preparation Area. Write down answers if it helps to make your presentation more concise. Try to keep your answers to the information your new employer will want to know.
Tips 3: Eye Contact - Maintain eye contact with your interviewer. Show you want the job with your interest.
Tips 4: Be Positive - In particular, avoid negative comments about past employers.
Tips 5: Adapt - Listen and adapt. Be sensitive to the style of the interviewer. Pay attention to those details of dress, office furniture, and general décor which will afford helpful clues to assist you in tailoring your presentation.
Tips 6: Relate - Try to relate your answers to the interviewer and his or her company. Focus on achievements relevant to the position.
Tips 7: Encourage - Encourage the interviewer to share information about his or her company. Demonstrate your interest. Some suggested questions to ask the interviewer are provided in the "Questions you could consider asking the employer" section.
INTERVIEW TIPS VOL 7
18. Tell me about a situation where something went very wrong and how you handled the situation.
Tip: Employers want to see that you can take a bad situation and turn it around into a positive situation. (Ex. When I was a server at Red Lobster, a customer became very angry when the I served him the wrong item. I had keyed in the wrong item on the computer so my ticket was wrong. I quickly apologized and took the item back and put in a rush order for the proper item. Then I asked ray manager if I could offer this couple either free drinks or desert. My manager said this would be okay, so I went back to the table with his new order and told them because of my mistake, I would like to offer them either a free after dinner drink or free dessert. They were very pleased with this service and have returned to the restaurant quite often this situation.)
19. What do you see yourself working at three to five years from now?
This really means: "If we hire you, are you likely to stay for a while?" You can crowd considerable reassurance for the interviewer into this question. Although questions about marriage, babies, child care are illegal, if you have completed you family or do not expect to start one for some time or have good child-care arrangements, strengthen your appeal by volunteering the information. You reply that you know you'll stay and grow with the job because…
Most career experts warn against naming a specific future job you plan to hold lest it mark you as too narrow or inflexible. Rather, indicate that you are mature and realistic in your thinking by discussing areas within government where you can grow based on your expertise and contributions.
20. What led you to choose your field of study?
Have your answer demonstrate the thought put into the decision-making process. Stay away from answers that revolve around monetary compensation or convenience.
21. What courses did you like best? Least? Why?
Stay away from blaming professors for your dislike of the course -this shows immaturity and a lack of shouldering responsibility. Emphasize those activities where you gained transferable skills, such as communication and organizational skills. Employers like well-rounded candidates.
22. What extracurricular activities did you enjoy the most and why?
This is your opportunity to demonstrate leadership abilities and your involvement in outside activities. Emphasize those activities where you gained transferable skills, such as leadership and time management skills.
23. How do you work under pressure?
Make sure that you can demonstrate your ability to "get the job done" by using past experiences as examples.
24. What three things are most important to you in a job?
Hopefully the job you are interviewing for offers these things, so try to relate them to why you choose this company over any other (e.g. good working conditions, a growing company, excellent staff, etc.) Do not mention money.
25. What would your references say about you?
Try to think of qualities in yourself that you know would apply to the position for which you are interviewing.
Tip: Employers want to see that you can take a bad situation and turn it around into a positive situation. (Ex. When I was a server at Red Lobster, a customer became very angry when the I served him the wrong item. I had keyed in the wrong item on the computer so my ticket was wrong. I quickly apologized and took the item back and put in a rush order for the proper item. Then I asked ray manager if I could offer this couple either free drinks or desert. My manager said this would be okay, so I went back to the table with his new order and told them because of my mistake, I would like to offer them either a free after dinner drink or free dessert. They were very pleased with this service and have returned to the restaurant quite often this situation.)
19. What do you see yourself working at three to five years from now?
This really means: "If we hire you, are you likely to stay for a while?" You can crowd considerable reassurance for the interviewer into this question. Although questions about marriage, babies, child care are illegal, if you have completed you family or do not expect to start one for some time or have good child-care arrangements, strengthen your appeal by volunteering the information. You reply that you know you'll stay and grow with the job because…
Most career experts warn against naming a specific future job you plan to hold lest it mark you as too narrow or inflexible. Rather, indicate that you are mature and realistic in your thinking by discussing areas within government where you can grow based on your expertise and contributions.
20. What led you to choose your field of study?
Have your answer demonstrate the thought put into the decision-making process. Stay away from answers that revolve around monetary compensation or convenience.
21. What courses did you like best? Least? Why?
Stay away from blaming professors for your dislike of the course -this shows immaturity and a lack of shouldering responsibility. Emphasize those activities where you gained transferable skills, such as communication and organizational skills. Employers like well-rounded candidates.
22. What extracurricular activities did you enjoy the most and why?
This is your opportunity to demonstrate leadership abilities and your involvement in outside activities. Emphasize those activities where you gained transferable skills, such as leadership and time management skills.
23. How do you work under pressure?
Make sure that you can demonstrate your ability to "get the job done" by using past experiences as examples.
24. What three things are most important to you in a job?
Hopefully the job you are interviewing for offers these things, so try to relate them to why you choose this company over any other (e.g. good working conditions, a growing company, excellent staff, etc.) Do not mention money.
25. What would your references say about you?
Try to think of qualities in yourself that you know would apply to the position for which you are interviewing.
INTERVIEW TIPS VOL 6
8. "What are your long Range Goals?"
This question is popular because it gathers a lot of useful information: maturity, foresight and realistic outlook, degree of preparation in career planning, and commitment to the organization and profession. In your research determine what position you could reasonably reach in five years. Speak to others who have successfully advanced themselves in the organization or profession. Express your desire and capability to grow within the organization. While you may be unsure of your future plans, demonstrate your knowledge of potential career paths.
9. If you were hiring somebody for this position, what qualification would you look for?
Once again, use the SCAN skills. (Ex. Somebody that can communicate well and work both as an individual and as part of a team. Someone that understands how this organization works and how to get the best results the quickest way. Someone who is up to date on technology, which knows what software, would help this company to attain its goals.)
10.Are you more comfortable working as a part of a team or individual?
Be honest. If you are a person who would rather work alone and you get frustrated when you have to rely on a team to get results, then you do not want a position that requires you to be a part of a team that always works together. You will very quickly become frustrated and unhappy in your job. Many companies want team players, so if you are comfortable working both as an individual and as part of a team, now are a good time to state this.
11.What do you know about our company?
Make sure to do your research before the interview.
(Here you can let the interviewer know you have done your pre-interview research.)
Mention all the positive things you can about the specific work, branch or department, how their needs match you skills and abilities.
12.Do you prefer working alone or with others?
The interviewer is looking for a sign that you are confident and able to work without supervision, yet at the same time that you can work as part of a team and value other's opinions.
13.What characteristics do you think are necessary to be a success in your field?
Mention the characteristics that match with the position for which you are applying.
14. How do you react to criticism?
Make sure that your answer reflects your willingness to listen and improve upon your work performance.
15. What do you expect from a supervisor?
Be honest and realistic; stay positive and do not go into past negative experiences.
16. Describe your ideal Job.
Try to have your answer reflect the qualifications of the position for which you are applying, yet maintain honesty.
17. What are your future career goals?
Answer this question assuming that you will still be with the company, even if you don't intend to be. The interviewer may be interested in someone who is flexible to the idea of internal movement or in someone who will stay with the company. You do not need to give a specific title or position. A general idea is sufficient. For example: I see myself helping the organization reach its corporate objectives by using my technical experience in an upper-level position.
This question is popular because it gathers a lot of useful information: maturity, foresight and realistic outlook, degree of preparation in career planning, and commitment to the organization and profession. In your research determine what position you could reasonably reach in five years. Speak to others who have successfully advanced themselves in the organization or profession. Express your desire and capability to grow within the organization. While you may be unsure of your future plans, demonstrate your knowledge of potential career paths.
9. If you were hiring somebody for this position, what qualification would you look for?
Once again, use the SCAN skills. (Ex. Somebody that can communicate well and work both as an individual and as part of a team. Someone that understands how this organization works and how to get the best results the quickest way. Someone who is up to date on technology, which knows what software, would help this company to attain its goals.)
10.Are you more comfortable working as a part of a team or individual?
Be honest. If you are a person who would rather work alone and you get frustrated when you have to rely on a team to get results, then you do not want a position that requires you to be a part of a team that always works together. You will very quickly become frustrated and unhappy in your job. Many companies want team players, so if you are comfortable working both as an individual and as part of a team, now are a good time to state this.
11.What do you know about our company?
Make sure to do your research before the interview.
(Here you can let the interviewer know you have done your pre-interview research.)
Mention all the positive things you can about the specific work, branch or department, how their needs match you skills and abilities.
12.Do you prefer working alone or with others?
The interviewer is looking for a sign that you are confident and able to work without supervision, yet at the same time that you can work as part of a team and value other's opinions.
13.What characteristics do you think are necessary to be a success in your field?
Mention the characteristics that match with the position for which you are applying.
14. How do you react to criticism?
Make sure that your answer reflects your willingness to listen and improve upon your work performance.
15. What do you expect from a supervisor?
Be honest and realistic; stay positive and do not go into past negative experiences.
16. Describe your ideal Job.
Try to have your answer reflect the qualifications of the position for which you are applying, yet maintain honesty.
17. What are your future career goals?
Answer this question assuming that you will still be with the company, even if you don't intend to be. The interviewer may be interested in someone who is flexible to the idea of internal movement or in someone who will stay with the company. You do not need to give a specific title or position. A general idea is sufficient. For example: I see myself helping the organization reach its corporate objectives by using my technical experience in an upper-level position.
INTERVIEW TIPS VOL 5
Make sure that you practice answers to the following sample questions. Be sure to provide specific examples and to focus on the positive at all times. Remember that your answers should not sound memorized, but rather organized and well thought out. Experienced interviewers can tell the difference between sincere answers and those read out of a book. Keep in mind that for all questions the best answers are honest answers.
1. "Tell me About Yourself"
(Here the interviewer is really asking you about yourself as a person, not about job skills.)
A common opener, this broad question can "throw" many interviewees. It is in fact a "sell-me" invitation. Develop a brief summation of your background leading into your interest and desire to work for the organization as well as your qualifications for the position.
This is the opportunity to sell yourself and bring to light your distinguishing attributes. An example: I thrive on challenges and change, and consider myself to be very flexible. Tell the employer something not found in your resume that you would like him or her to know, such as your abilities or accomplishments. Do not talk about family, hobbies etc…, unless they directly relate to the position.
2. What is your greatest strength?
This is a great question to show your employability skills. Talk about being a team member, being able to use various computer software etc. This question really means: "Tell me how your abilities fit what's needed for this job". Suppose the position you're applying for requires initiative. (You figured this out before hand by analyzing characteristics needed for this type of work and by analyzing their job descriptions.) Instead of simply stating, "I'm definitely a self-starter", be prepared with examples. To illustrate your initiative you might be able to say: "My present boss travels almost 40 percent of the time. I have to deal on my own with problems in customer service scheduling, expending numerous day-to-day plans".
Attempt to turn your weaknesses into strengths and explain what steps you have taken to do so. You also can use weaknesses that can be categorized or an overachiever. Try to have your requirements relate directly to the requirements of the position for which you are interviewing.
3. What is your greatest weakness?
Always choose a weakness that you are striving to improve or a weakness that can also be strength. (Ex I am still reaming various computer software since it is constantly changing. Or, I am a perfectionist, which at times may bother people who work for me but I feel nothing should leave this office until it is perfect since it is a direct reflection of the quality of our work.)
Everyone has a weakness but remember not to answer in a negative way. Turn your weakness into a positive (for example) "Because I tend to procrastinate, I have learned to work well under pressure and to always get work done on time".
If you insist you have none, you'll lose out as having no insight into yourself. Instead, choose an appropriate strength and be prepared to report it as a "weakness".
Perhaps for this job, system is essential. You might confess you can't stand work done on a piece-meal, what's today's-crisis basis. You like to plan ahead, to foresee and prevent problems. Just the "weakness" needed for the position.
Or, perhaps there is a weakness in your experience, knowledge or skills - something that is needed for the job, something you know you need to work on. Admit you weak area and state how you plan to improve in that area; i.e. course you have enrolled in, volunteer work you are doing, etc…
4. "Tell me about your Schooling"
The key to this question is to keep your reply positive. Speak well of your alma mater. You are a product of your school's educational programs. Be prepared to address questions about low grades, major changes etc…
5. Why are you leaving your current position?
Stay positive, even if you're leaving a negative situation. Employers are looking for employees with good attitudes even when working in bad situations. Complaining about your past employer will not win over a new employer. (Ex. "I am looking for a company that will give me the opportunity for better personal growth". This is much better then saying "My current employer does not know how to properly treat people, he is unfair and terrible to work with".)
Here the interviewer is trying to determine whether you had difficulties at your previous workplace which may re-occur.
Difficulty at one job, with circumstances unique to that situation, is not likely to occur again. Be honest, but do not elaborate unnecessarily. Point out the unlikelihood of similar circumstances. Point out any positive ways in which you handled the situation.
There are many legitimate reasons for leaving a job, i.e.: only a term position, promotional opportunities, change in location, change in careers, looking for more challenge, experience, lay-off, job cutbacks, etc…
6. Why should I hire you instead of another Candidate?
The employer wants proof that you are the best potential employee. (Ex. I know how an organization such as your works. I understand the right procedures and paths to follow to get the work accomplished efficiently and professionally. I am also a team player who can work well with all personalities and use these unique personalities to get the best results.)
Focus on the qualifications for which the employer is looking and the responsibilities of the position; stress how you fit these qualifications.
Here is your chance to really help the interviewer make a decision in your favour. Sell yourself. Quickly respond with your specific top job related skills and positive characteristics. Some ideas might be: conscientious, dependable, enthusiastic, interested in this area, strong desire to do this type of work, willing to give extra effort, can work on my own, am responsible, like to be held accountable, get along well with others, see a job through to the finish, etc…
From your research, you should have gathered information on entry level opportunities within the organization and the necessary qualifications for those positions. From your own self-analysis you will have gained insight into your strengths and accomplishments. Mention key functions of the job and discuss your skills in relation to these functions. Use experiences from previous jobs, internships, and activities as examples to support you answer.
7. How would your skills benefit this organization?
Briefly focus on the needs of the company as they pertain to the position for which you are applying. State why you believe you are qualified for the position and be confident that you are the person for the job - try to state facts and figures. For example: I have been named employee of the month three times in the past year, and I am sure that I can make the same kind of contribution here.
1. "Tell me About Yourself"
(Here the interviewer is really asking you about yourself as a person, not about job skills.)
A common opener, this broad question can "throw" many interviewees. It is in fact a "sell-me" invitation. Develop a brief summation of your background leading into your interest and desire to work for the organization as well as your qualifications for the position.
This is the opportunity to sell yourself and bring to light your distinguishing attributes. An example: I thrive on challenges and change, and consider myself to be very flexible. Tell the employer something not found in your resume that you would like him or her to know, such as your abilities or accomplishments. Do not talk about family, hobbies etc…, unless they directly relate to the position.
2. What is your greatest strength?
This is a great question to show your employability skills. Talk about being a team member, being able to use various computer software etc. This question really means: "Tell me how your abilities fit what's needed for this job". Suppose the position you're applying for requires initiative. (You figured this out before hand by analyzing characteristics needed for this type of work and by analyzing their job descriptions.) Instead of simply stating, "I'm definitely a self-starter", be prepared with examples. To illustrate your initiative you might be able to say: "My present boss travels almost 40 percent of the time. I have to deal on my own with problems in customer service scheduling, expending numerous day-to-day plans".
Attempt to turn your weaknesses into strengths and explain what steps you have taken to do so. You also can use weaknesses that can be categorized or an overachiever. Try to have your requirements relate directly to the requirements of the position for which you are interviewing.
3. What is your greatest weakness?
Always choose a weakness that you are striving to improve or a weakness that can also be strength. (Ex I am still reaming various computer software since it is constantly changing. Or, I am a perfectionist, which at times may bother people who work for me but I feel nothing should leave this office until it is perfect since it is a direct reflection of the quality of our work.)
Everyone has a weakness but remember not to answer in a negative way. Turn your weakness into a positive (for example) "Because I tend to procrastinate, I have learned to work well under pressure and to always get work done on time".
If you insist you have none, you'll lose out as having no insight into yourself. Instead, choose an appropriate strength and be prepared to report it as a "weakness".
Perhaps for this job, system is essential. You might confess you can't stand work done on a piece-meal, what's today's-crisis basis. You like to plan ahead, to foresee and prevent problems. Just the "weakness" needed for the position.
Or, perhaps there is a weakness in your experience, knowledge or skills - something that is needed for the job, something you know you need to work on. Admit you weak area and state how you plan to improve in that area; i.e. course you have enrolled in, volunteer work you are doing, etc…
4. "Tell me about your Schooling"
The key to this question is to keep your reply positive. Speak well of your alma mater. You are a product of your school's educational programs. Be prepared to address questions about low grades, major changes etc…
5. Why are you leaving your current position?
Stay positive, even if you're leaving a negative situation. Employers are looking for employees with good attitudes even when working in bad situations. Complaining about your past employer will not win over a new employer. (Ex. "I am looking for a company that will give me the opportunity for better personal growth". This is much better then saying "My current employer does not know how to properly treat people, he is unfair and terrible to work with".)
Here the interviewer is trying to determine whether you had difficulties at your previous workplace which may re-occur.
Difficulty at one job, with circumstances unique to that situation, is not likely to occur again. Be honest, but do not elaborate unnecessarily. Point out the unlikelihood of similar circumstances. Point out any positive ways in which you handled the situation.
There are many legitimate reasons for leaving a job, i.e.: only a term position, promotional opportunities, change in location, change in careers, looking for more challenge, experience, lay-off, job cutbacks, etc…
6. Why should I hire you instead of another Candidate?
The employer wants proof that you are the best potential employee. (Ex. I know how an organization such as your works. I understand the right procedures and paths to follow to get the work accomplished efficiently and professionally. I am also a team player who can work well with all personalities and use these unique personalities to get the best results.)
Focus on the qualifications for which the employer is looking and the responsibilities of the position; stress how you fit these qualifications.
Here is your chance to really help the interviewer make a decision in your favour. Sell yourself. Quickly respond with your specific top job related skills and positive characteristics. Some ideas might be: conscientious, dependable, enthusiastic, interested in this area, strong desire to do this type of work, willing to give extra effort, can work on my own, am responsible, like to be held accountable, get along well with others, see a job through to the finish, etc…
From your research, you should have gathered information on entry level opportunities within the organization and the necessary qualifications for those positions. From your own self-analysis you will have gained insight into your strengths and accomplishments. Mention key functions of the job and discuss your skills in relation to these functions. Use experiences from previous jobs, internships, and activities as examples to support you answer.
7. How would your skills benefit this organization?
Briefly focus on the needs of the company as they pertain to the position for which you are applying. State why you believe you are qualified for the position and be confident that you are the person for the job - try to state facts and figures. For example: I have been named employee of the month three times in the past year, and I am sure that I can make the same kind of contribution here.
INTERVIEW TIPS VOL 4 SOME DO`S
The interview is the most important occasion, which proves a turning point in the life of the candidate if he is able to impress the interviewer or the Board of interview. It is therefore, essential that from the very beginning, the Candidate should, by his appearance is liable to have great impact on them in taking a decision about him. The following points will help the candidates a great deal in every interview,
* Make adequate preparation for the interview. Leave no chance for luck. Sufficient preparation for the interview will provide extra confident to the candidate.
* Take all the originals of your certificate and testimonials regarding your academic qualifications, age and experience.
* Reach the place of interview well before time. Any delay may cause unnecessary nervousness.
* Your dress should be neat, clean and tidy. The interview will require your personal appearance to be perfect before the Selection Board. So, it is very important that you should create a good impression. You should appear well-turned out and carefully dressed. The dress should be sober and well pressed and should conform to social and acceptable norms in clothing. Over dressing or under dressing should be avoided. Also avoid showy or gaudy dresses, mod belts, mufflers and sunglasses.
* The shoed should be well polished. The dress should give the impression that you are not a careless person but are smart and alert. A candidate with dirty and unpressed clothes and scattered hair will create a very poor impression on the Board. Hence, it is imperative that a candidate should comb his hair properly, and put on neat and tidy clothes which give the impression of alertness and smartness.
* Whether you wear Indian-dress or European one, your personality after dressing up should look natural. The dress should be complete and dignified, that is to say, if you are putting on a European suit you should wear a necktie, a pair of shoes and the color of the suit.
* In the summer you may wear a plain shirt or bush shirt of a sober color/design, but not a T shirt and do not roll the sleeves of the shirt. In winter you may wear a suit (with a matching necktie). Lady candidates should wear a Sari, avoiding fancy wear, e.g. maxis, bell bottoms, pants, footwear with high heels etc…
* Wear a smile! A natural and spontaneous smile befriends the interviewers. In answering or listening to a question or thanking the members, your natural smile will pay a lot!
* Be self confident, calm and composed. Always be optimistic and have a healthy and optimistic outlook on life.
* During the interview, you should bear in mind that you are being watched by the Board. So you should be at your best. While entering the chamber of the interview, knock at the door gently, wait for a few seconds and then walk straight and erect right up to the Chairman's table. Your gait should be dignified. With the Chairman and the Members of the Board with politeness and wait for the Chairman's direction before sitting. If you are not asked by the Chairman to sit, then you should ask politely for a seat. When asked to sit, occupy the chair without pulling or pushing it. Thank the Board for providing a seat for you, since courtesy always pays.
* While occupying the chair, cover the whole of the seat and not just the end of it. Your hands should be placed on your lap or no the sides and not across the table.
* While answering a question you should appear to be alive and interested with a natural facial expression, neither serious not casual. Be clear, frank, bold but courteous.
* Face the Chairman, but look at the member you are speaking to. Be alert in grasping the questions and lucid in answering them. A lively, lucid, forceful, fluent and realistic, rational and convincing answer spoken after understanding the questions properly is always beneficial to the candidate. When you are unable to understand the question, you may politely ask the member to repeat it. Interrupting the Member or the Chairman is not at all advisable.
* Admit your ignorance, if you are unable to answer a question. Apologize to the Board if you have spoken anything wrong, for as K.P.S Menon stated, "Ignorance is always excusable; and a candidate's confession of ignorance is commendable, but any attempt to cover up ignorance with pretended knowledge is reprehensible and will be easily found out…. In a candidate as a good servant, the chief virtue we expect is intellectual integrity".
* Try to project in the mind of the selector that you have a great interest in the job for which you are being interviewed. You reason in support of your preference for the job should be solid and convincing.
* Speak in a well modulated voice pleasing to the ears of the Interviewing Officer. Be clear in your conversation. Clarity of voice, construction of meaningful sentences, proper modulation, methodological and convincing way of presenting facts all are essential for the positive results. Fast speed in speech should be carefully avoided.
* If you want to lay stress on a particular point, it is advisable to emphasize that particular word. Simple and short sentences have greater clarity and are more effective than a difficult and lengthy construction of the sentence. The sentence should be simple, short and effective. Try to answer to the point only.
* At the end of the interview await the signal from the Chairman before getting up, thank him and the Board with a smile, walk out in a natural gait, and then close the door behind you gently.
* Make adequate preparation for the interview. Leave no chance for luck. Sufficient preparation for the interview will provide extra confident to the candidate.
* Take all the originals of your certificate and testimonials regarding your academic qualifications, age and experience.
* Reach the place of interview well before time. Any delay may cause unnecessary nervousness.
* Your dress should be neat, clean and tidy. The interview will require your personal appearance to be perfect before the Selection Board. So, it is very important that you should create a good impression. You should appear well-turned out and carefully dressed. The dress should be sober and well pressed and should conform to social and acceptable norms in clothing. Over dressing or under dressing should be avoided. Also avoid showy or gaudy dresses, mod belts, mufflers and sunglasses.
* The shoed should be well polished. The dress should give the impression that you are not a careless person but are smart and alert. A candidate with dirty and unpressed clothes and scattered hair will create a very poor impression on the Board. Hence, it is imperative that a candidate should comb his hair properly, and put on neat and tidy clothes which give the impression of alertness and smartness.
* Whether you wear Indian-dress or European one, your personality after dressing up should look natural. The dress should be complete and dignified, that is to say, if you are putting on a European suit you should wear a necktie, a pair of shoes and the color of the suit.
* In the summer you may wear a plain shirt or bush shirt of a sober color/design, but not a T shirt and do not roll the sleeves of the shirt. In winter you may wear a suit (with a matching necktie). Lady candidates should wear a Sari, avoiding fancy wear, e.g. maxis, bell bottoms, pants, footwear with high heels etc…
* Wear a smile! A natural and spontaneous smile befriends the interviewers. In answering or listening to a question or thanking the members, your natural smile will pay a lot!
* Be self confident, calm and composed. Always be optimistic and have a healthy and optimistic outlook on life.
* During the interview, you should bear in mind that you are being watched by the Board. So you should be at your best. While entering the chamber of the interview, knock at the door gently, wait for a few seconds and then walk straight and erect right up to the Chairman's table. Your gait should be dignified. With the Chairman and the Members of the Board with politeness and wait for the Chairman's direction before sitting. If you are not asked by the Chairman to sit, then you should ask politely for a seat. When asked to sit, occupy the chair without pulling or pushing it. Thank the Board for providing a seat for you, since courtesy always pays.
* While occupying the chair, cover the whole of the seat and not just the end of it. Your hands should be placed on your lap or no the sides and not across the table.
* While answering a question you should appear to be alive and interested with a natural facial expression, neither serious not casual. Be clear, frank, bold but courteous.
* Face the Chairman, but look at the member you are speaking to. Be alert in grasping the questions and lucid in answering them. A lively, lucid, forceful, fluent and realistic, rational and convincing answer spoken after understanding the questions properly is always beneficial to the candidate. When you are unable to understand the question, you may politely ask the member to repeat it. Interrupting the Member or the Chairman is not at all advisable.
* Admit your ignorance, if you are unable to answer a question. Apologize to the Board if you have spoken anything wrong, for as K.P.S Menon stated, "Ignorance is always excusable; and a candidate's confession of ignorance is commendable, but any attempt to cover up ignorance with pretended knowledge is reprehensible and will be easily found out…. In a candidate as a good servant, the chief virtue we expect is intellectual integrity".
* Try to project in the mind of the selector that you have a great interest in the job for which you are being interviewed. You reason in support of your preference for the job should be solid and convincing.
* Speak in a well modulated voice pleasing to the ears of the Interviewing Officer. Be clear in your conversation. Clarity of voice, construction of meaningful sentences, proper modulation, methodological and convincing way of presenting facts all are essential for the positive results. Fast speed in speech should be carefully avoided.
* If you want to lay stress on a particular point, it is advisable to emphasize that particular word. Simple and short sentences have greater clarity and are more effective than a difficult and lengthy construction of the sentence. The sentence should be simple, short and effective. Try to answer to the point only.
* At the end of the interview await the signal from the Chairman before getting up, thank him and the Board with a smile, walk out in a natural gait, and then close the door behind you gently.
INTERVIEW TIPS VOL 4 QUESTIONS GENERALLY EXPECTED
Five years ago, when asked to describe your management style, you could impress an interviewer by talking about using performance-management techniques, setting expectations, measuring feedback and rewarding performance - evidence that you knew how to manage. Now the situation is more complicated- and more urgent. In addition to showing that you're a capable leader, you must prove that you know how to encourage individuals to work together to accelerate problem-solving. In the past, team-building was recognized primarily for its ability to shape culture. However, given today's accelerated pace, you must show that you understand how to navigate in a complex environment, where how well you work with other parts of the organization is what ultimately produces results.
In the end, all interviewing boils down to one simple query, whether it's asked overtly or simply implied: "Will this person make the company a better place?" show that the answer is yes, and you'll ensure that you're the one who gets the nod.
Stay positive in all your answers. Promote your skills. Watch your body language. Interviewers are looking at body language while you are in an interview. If you are slouching, swinging your legs and playing with your hair, it will give the interviewer the feeling you are not a self-confident person. You always want to sit straight up, pay attention and make sure you are not doing any nervous gestures.
Questions Generally Expected in an Interview
Q1) Tell us something about yourself
* Your name
* Your educational qualification (name of the degree; name of university)
* Your professional qualifications
* Your hobbies (do not state many hobbies)
* Your aim in life
Q2) Tell us something about your family
* Your father and his profession
* Your mother and her profession / homemaker
* Your younger brother / sister, elder brother / sister (just mention) and if you are the youngest talk about yourself in the end.
Q3) Why do you want to join a call center?
Don't
It was my childhood dream; never use statements like this. You can never plan your career in your childhood.
'To meet different people and not peoples'. They will get an impression that all you want to do is make lots of friends rather than being interested in the job.
Do's
You may say that the job gives you an opportunity to interact with people from all different walks of life and different parts of the world.
Say it enhances your career - it widens your horizons.
It gives you a chance to be directly involved with people and help them arrive in better shape
Q4) What is so special about you that you should be chosen for this job?
Don't
Never use statements like 'I' think I'm good' or I can do well
Never tell your shortcomings or weakness like being short tempered.
Do's
Always be positive in your approach
Always tell your strong points
Being confident
Doing your work with full dedication
Having faith in your abilities
In the end, all interviewing boils down to one simple query, whether it's asked overtly or simply implied: "Will this person make the company a better place?" show that the answer is yes, and you'll ensure that you're the one who gets the nod.
Stay positive in all your answers. Promote your skills. Watch your body language. Interviewers are looking at body language while you are in an interview. If you are slouching, swinging your legs and playing with your hair, it will give the interviewer the feeling you are not a self-confident person. You always want to sit straight up, pay attention and make sure you are not doing any nervous gestures.
Questions Generally Expected in an Interview
Q1) Tell us something about yourself
* Your name
* Your educational qualification (name of the degree; name of university)
* Your professional qualifications
* Your hobbies (do not state many hobbies)
* Your aim in life
Q2) Tell us something about your family
* Your father and his profession
* Your mother and her profession / homemaker
* Your younger brother / sister, elder brother / sister (just mention) and if you are the youngest talk about yourself in the end.
Q3) Why do you want to join a call center?
Don't
It was my childhood dream; never use statements like this. You can never plan your career in your childhood.
'To meet different people and not peoples'. They will get an impression that all you want to do is make lots of friends rather than being interested in the job.
Do's
You may say that the job gives you an opportunity to interact with people from all different walks of life and different parts of the world.
Say it enhances your career - it widens your horizons.
It gives you a chance to be directly involved with people and help them arrive in better shape
Q4) What is so special about you that you should be chosen for this job?
Don't
Never use statements like 'I' think I'm good' or I can do well
Never tell your shortcomings or weakness like being short tempered.
Do's
Always be positive in your approach
Always tell your strong points
Being confident
Doing your work with full dedication
Having faith in your abilities
TRANSFORMING YOUR PASSION
Do you know you can transform your passion into PROFIT? "YES,of course" if you believe in your ability of achieving this. However,it would be a dream in futility hoping to turn your PASSION TO PROFIT in a venture of your dream if you don`t START.
You have to START because talking alone without working towards realizing your dream is never enough.
Remember, anybody who hopes to build a thriving business has to start somewhere. The truth is that if you don`t start, you won`t start. Do away with the reasons why you cannot start and embrace reasons why you can start and create a business propelled by a burning passion to make a difference.
Don`t say "I DON`T HAVE THIS, I DON`T HAVE THAT"and so have it postponed. Understand that all you have now is what you need to start, and what you don`t have you don`t need. Starting is the first step towards attainment. You don`t have to be great to start, but you have to start to be great.
Some people complains of having no office hence, they won`t start.
"HAVING NO OFFICE? Start from you home",
"HAVING NO MONEY? Start with the little you have",
Find ways of giving your ideas wing to fly.
Never ignor the days of little beginnings, small beginnings are often the room that births great enterprises. You may start by offering your services for free. This one secret method most organizations apply by giving out some of their products to people for free. Doing this,telling people and giving a face to your services can also help to jump start your business.
Your starting small should not entail reveling in mediocrity. Excellence should be your driving force. One of the reasons the growth of some businesses are stunted is because the owners downplay the place of excellence and focus entirely on making profit. Strive to be worl-class in your service delivery. Every positive effort yields success, and to be successful, you have to give more and better service that is expected of you.
Pause, think and review your program-plans. Ask yourself what and what you need to apply. Learn new things to aid you achieving your goals. Don`t stop learning, because when you do, you start becoming lean in your business pursuit.
Your mind is a vital equipment for the attainment of your passion. Your dream is stunted in size and scope when the mind of the host is stunted in growth. START SOMETHING TODAY AND WATCH YOUR PASSION TURNS TO PROFIT.
Please send us your comment if you are motivated by this blog. AlwayS visit http://trueloveforum.blogspot.com
You have to START because talking alone without working towards realizing your dream is never enough.
Remember, anybody who hopes to build a thriving business has to start somewhere. The truth is that if you don`t start, you won`t start. Do away with the reasons why you cannot start and embrace reasons why you can start and create a business propelled by a burning passion to make a difference.
Don`t say "I DON`T HAVE THIS, I DON`T HAVE THAT"and so have it postponed. Understand that all you have now is what you need to start, and what you don`t have you don`t need. Starting is the first step towards attainment. You don`t have to be great to start, but you have to start to be great.
Some people complains of having no office hence, they won`t start.
"HAVING NO OFFICE? Start from you home",
"HAVING NO MONEY? Start with the little you have",
Find ways of giving your ideas wing to fly.
Never ignor the days of little beginnings, small beginnings are often the room that births great enterprises. You may start by offering your services for free. This one secret method most organizations apply by giving out some of their products to people for free. Doing this,telling people and giving a face to your services can also help to jump start your business.
Your starting small should not entail reveling in mediocrity. Excellence should be your driving force. One of the reasons the growth of some businesses are stunted is because the owners downplay the place of excellence and focus entirely on making profit. Strive to be worl-class in your service delivery. Every positive effort yields success, and to be successful, you have to give more and better service that is expected of you.
Pause, think and review your program-plans. Ask yourself what and what you need to apply. Learn new things to aid you achieving your goals. Don`t stop learning, because when you do, you start becoming lean in your business pursuit.
Your mind is a vital equipment for the attainment of your passion. Your dream is stunted in size and scope when the mind of the host is stunted in growth. START SOMETHING TODAY AND WATCH YOUR PASSION TURNS TO PROFIT.
Please send us your comment if you are motivated by this blog. AlwayS visit http://trueloveforum.blogspot.com
INTERVIEW TIPS VOL 3
Like i promised to furnish you with information on the basic tips to facing an INTERVIEW, i strive to making this a reality and if you can adhere to this piece of infornation, you are sure bet of grabing that job. What does it take you to get this? absolutely nothing.
This INTERVIEW TIPS was given to me by a good friend and i thought it wise sharing it with you for free. Like every other ebook, you are either ask to download, register or purchase before it can be given to you.
However, we have decided to offer this for a zore fee to every interested individual. It cost you nothing. Only visit this site @
* Before you go for any interview, always learn to find about the company.
* Do not take a chance to make any guesses about the company.
* Dress smartly. Do not wear brightly colored clothes for an interview. Do not wear any big prints or colored flowers and leaves on your attire.
* Gentlemen please check that the socks you wear blend with the trouser and are in contrast to the color of your trouser.
* Do not wear any thick chains or big pendants. Do not wear any raashi rings, chunky bracelets, earrings etc…
* Shoes to be well polished, in good condition and should co-ordinate with your clothes.
* Dress formally; wear neatly ironed clothes for an interview.
General:
Look poised, comfortable, neatly dressed.
Talk softly yet clearly.
Be courteous, smile, be helpful, take initiative, and maintain eye contact,
pay attention.
Listen and understand, apologize, Take corrective measures, follow-up.
No vulgar jokes and do not make any racist remarks.
No slang's like 'ya', 'guy', 'male', 'female' etc…
Listen first, understand and then reply.
Look at the person while you speak.
If you do not know something, admit it, don't make guesses.
Points to Remember
* When you enter the room DO NOT look down. Look at the people sitting to interview you.
* Keep in mind and wish accordingly
(1 lady / 1man… Good Morning ma'am / sir)
(2men / 1lady….Good Morning gentlemen/ ma'am)
(2men / 2ladies…Good Morning ladies and gentlemen)
(More than above count… Good Morning everybody)
* If the interview panel introduce themselves say "It is a pleasure meeting all of You"
* After you have been questioned you can say "It was a pleasure talking to you; have a nice day"
* When you are given a topic for group discussion first say "Good morning/afternoon/evening", mention your name and then start.
* Always update yourself with the latest happenings and events around the world. Read the newspaper of the particular day on which you have your interview.
* When asked a question never lie about the same or make wild guesses.
This INTERVIEW TIPS was given to me by a good friend and i thought it wise sharing it with you for free. Like every other ebook, you are either ask to download, register or purchase before it can be given to you.
However, we have decided to offer this for a zore fee to every interested individual. It cost you nothing. Only visit this site @
http://trueloveforum.blogspot.com,for up-dates on this very topic and other related articles. Your comment also would useful to enable us improve on our subsequent topics.
* Before you go for any interview, always learn to find about the company.
* Do not take a chance to make any guesses about the company.
* Dress smartly. Do not wear brightly colored clothes for an interview. Do not wear any big prints or colored flowers and leaves on your attire.
* Gentlemen please check that the socks you wear blend with the trouser and are in contrast to the color of your trouser.
* Do not wear any thick chains or big pendants. Do not wear any raashi rings, chunky bracelets, earrings etc…
* Shoes to be well polished, in good condition and should co-ordinate with your clothes.
* Dress formally; wear neatly ironed clothes for an interview.
General:
Look poised, comfortable, neatly dressed.
Talk softly yet clearly.
Be courteous, smile, be helpful, take initiative, and maintain eye contact,
pay attention.
Listen and understand, apologize, Take corrective measures, follow-up.
No vulgar jokes and do not make any racist remarks.
No slang's like 'ya', 'guy', 'male', 'female' etc…
Listen first, understand and then reply.
Look at the person while you speak.
If you do not know something, admit it, don't make guesses.
Points to Remember
* When you enter the room DO NOT look down. Look at the people sitting to interview you.
* Keep in mind and wish accordingly
(1 lady / 1man… Good Morning ma'am / sir)
(2men / 1lady….Good Morning gentlemen/ ma'am)
(2men / 2ladies…Good Morning ladies and gentlemen)
(More than above count… Good Morning everybody)
* If the interview panel introduce themselves say "It is a pleasure meeting all of You"
* After you have been questioned you can say "It was a pleasure talking to you; have a nice day"
* When you are given a topic for group discussion first say "Good morning/afternoon/evening", mention your name and then start.
* Always update yourself with the latest happenings and events around the world. Read the newspaper of the particular day on which you have your interview.
* When asked a question never lie about the same or make wild guesses.
HOW TO FACE AN INTERVIEW VOL 2
* Know how to keep yourself calm. The beset way to do this is to be prepared.
* Research the company and the industry.
* Know what kind of interview to expect-a screening interview, a stress interview.
* Know why you want the job, identify your wants and your needs and know the difference.
* Be able to express; specifically the marketable skills you have to offer the organization.
* Be prepared to answer that killer question.
* Know how to deal with illegal questions tactfully during the interview.
* Prepare questions you wish to ask-only questions you can't find answers to yourself.
* Line up your references in advance and verify that they will be good ones.
Presentation
* Find out the standard dress for the organization.
* Arrive early.
* Bring extra resumes, notepad and a pen.
* Be sure you know how to pronounce the interviewers name correctly.
* Be polite to everyone you meet there. They all count.
* Be aware of body language, vibes, reactions-use your instincts to keep things on course.
* Assume all things are asked for a good reason and answer accordingly.
* Feel free to ask clarification before answering a question.
* Take some time to formulate your answer before you speak.
* Answer all questions honestly but in the best, most positive light.
* Most importantly, do not bad mouth old employers.
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* Research the company and the industry.
* Know what kind of interview to expect-a screening interview, a stress interview.
* Know why you want the job, identify your wants and your needs and know the difference.
* Be able to express; specifically the marketable skills you have to offer the organization.
* Be prepared to answer that killer question.
* Know how to deal with illegal questions tactfully during the interview.
* Prepare questions you wish to ask-only questions you can't find answers to yourself.
* Line up your references in advance and verify that they will be good ones.
Presentation
* Find out the standard dress for the organization.
* Arrive early.
* Bring extra resumes, notepad and a pen.
* Be sure you know how to pronounce the interviewers name correctly.
* Be polite to everyone you meet there. They all count.
* Be aware of body language, vibes, reactions-use your instincts to keep things on course.
* Assume all things are asked for a good reason and answer accordingly.
* Feel free to ask clarification before answering a question.
* Take some time to formulate your answer before you speak.
* Answer all questions honestly but in the best, most positive light.
* Most importantly, do not bad mouth old employers.
Watch out for vol 3, or visit TRUE-LOVE.NET @
http://trueloveforum.blogspot.comfor more up-dates.
"INTERVIEW" ? HOW YOU CAN FACE AN IINTERVIEW. VOL I
Have you been going for job interviews without a success ? Are getting tired of applying for job and failing at the last minute? Is scaling the interview huddles your greatest undoing ? If " YES" is you answer, then the solution to your problem is here.
I an going to give you some tips to overcome all your worries just for FREE. The only thing you need to do is always visit this site for up-dates on more TIPS to helping you get over your headache. So many people have lost out being employed for an given job because they were unable to sail through during interview period. Sometimes, its not because they did not answer the questions put across to them correctly, but due to other trivial issues but vital for scaling through.
Some of this issues which could seem to you as not necessary,could be what can lead to your being disqualified, and so you don`t have to ignore them.
When an HR Executives in a Call Center or any Organizations is interviewing a potential employee they are usually looking for skills that an employee can apply on the job. They will also be trying to figure out your personality and how you will fit in with other co-workers. They usually only have between 5 minutes to a half hour to try to figure out that you are all about? The more you can sell yourself in this time frame, the better your potential for being hired.
Part of any effective job search includes preparing for that all-important interview, but are your interviewing skills up-to-date? What were considered correct responses in the 1990s could actually prevent you from getting a hob these days. Why? Because the job climate has shifted and employers have different expectations of a prospective employee than they did even five years ago.
So how do you demonstrate that you're in touch with the business needs of today and aren't a throwback to former times? The following describes the major shifts occurring in the interviewing process and suggests ways to help you respond. You'll gain insight into the mind of today's typical interviewer and ensure that the questions you're asked don't catch you by surprise.
Just a few years ago, you walked into an interview nearly certain that you'd be asked the question: "What would you like to be doing five years from now?" The anticipated answer demonstrated a combination of loyalty and ambition - you expressed a desire to remain with the same organization over a period of time and to step into roles of ever increasing responsibility.
Once a standard part of the interview process, this query is fading from use. Given today's tumultuous economic and social climate, employer concerns about longevity have been replaced with a desire to see rapid results. Three-year plans are practically unheard of, which means you need to show that you're capable of getting up to speed immediately and that you have the skills and experience to solve complex problems effectively and without hesitation. Instead of discussing where you plan to be five years from now, be prepared to answer something like: "how would you characterize a 90-day plan to meet the objectives of this position
To be continued. watch out.and always visit http://trueloveforun.blogspot.com for more blogs.
I an going to give you some tips to overcome all your worries just for FREE. The only thing you need to do is always visit this site for up-dates on more TIPS to helping you get over your headache. So many people have lost out being employed for an given job because they were unable to sail through during interview period. Sometimes, its not because they did not answer the questions put across to them correctly, but due to other trivial issues but vital for scaling through.
Some of this issues which could seem to you as not necessary,could be what can lead to your being disqualified, and so you don`t have to ignore them.
When an HR Executives in a Call Center or any Organizations is interviewing a potential employee they are usually looking for skills that an employee can apply on the job. They will also be trying to figure out your personality and how you will fit in with other co-workers. They usually only have between 5 minutes to a half hour to try to figure out that you are all about? The more you can sell yourself in this time frame, the better your potential for being hired.
Part of any effective job search includes preparing for that all-important interview, but are your interviewing skills up-to-date? What were considered correct responses in the 1990s could actually prevent you from getting a hob these days. Why? Because the job climate has shifted and employers have different expectations of a prospective employee than they did even five years ago.
So how do you demonstrate that you're in touch with the business needs of today and aren't a throwback to former times? The following describes the major shifts occurring in the interviewing process and suggests ways to help you respond. You'll gain insight into the mind of today's typical interviewer and ensure that the questions you're asked don't catch you by surprise.
Just a few years ago, you walked into an interview nearly certain that you'd be asked the question: "What would you like to be doing five years from now?" The anticipated answer demonstrated a combination of loyalty and ambition - you expressed a desire to remain with the same organization over a period of time and to step into roles of ever increasing responsibility.
Once a standard part of the interview process, this query is fading from use. Given today's tumultuous economic and social climate, employer concerns about longevity have been replaced with a desire to see rapid results. Three-year plans are practically unheard of, which means you need to show that you're capable of getting up to speed immediately and that you have the skills and experience to solve complex problems effectively and without hesitation. Instead of discussing where you plan to be five years from now, be prepared to answer something like: "how would you characterize a 90-day plan to meet the objectives of this position
To be continued. watch out.and always visit http://trueloveforun.blogspot.com for more blogs.
CHERISH YOUR VISION
NEED TO CHERISH YOUR VISIONCherish your vision if you really want to grow STATE-MAN like.
Cherish your vision and dream for they are the children of your soul.
The blueprints of your ultimate achievements.
Sometimes we must be hurt in other to grow,sometimes we fail in
order to know, we must lose in order to gain, because some
lessons are best learned through pains.
It is not the possession of good things that brings happiness,
it is the ability to enjoy what comes from it. because happiness
is an attitude.
Always have positive attitude in life. There is something positive
in every person and in every situation.
Sometimes,even a stopped clock is right twice.
Cherish your vision and dream for they are the children of your soul.
The blueprints of your ultimate achievements.
Sometimes we must be hurt in other to grow,sometimes we fail in
order to know, we must lose in order to gain, because some
lessons are best learned through pains.
It is not the possession of good things that brings happiness,
it is the ability to enjoy what comes from it. because happiness
is an attitude.
Always have positive attitude in life. There is something positive
in every person and in every situation.
Sometimes,even a stopped clock is right twice.
SOME SEX MISTAKES SOME WOMEN DO
SOME SEX MISTAKES WOMEN MAKELadies, be honest: when your sex life becomes a little humdrum, out comes the mental catalog of all the ways your partner isn’t quite measuring up,especially by understanding women’s bodies and what turns them on, making them easy targets in the blame game when sexual satisfaction starts to wane. And sure, they make their fair share of bedroom errors. But as the saying goes, it takes two to tango. As it turns out, top sex and relationship experts say that women make plenty of sex mistakes of their own.Do you agree with them ?.Below are some of their views on some common sex mistakes women make in the bedroom and what you can do to get the satisfaction you so rightly deserve.
NOT INITIATING SEX FIRST.
By not initiating sex first with their partner,perhaps in other not to appear pushy or come on too strong for fear of being labeled aggressive,is one of the biggest mistakes women make.
Most guys feel like they are always the initiator and that sets up disequilibrium on the passion scale in the relationship. Generally, men want to be pursued by their partners just as much as women do.Holding onto outdated ideas about sex roles also inhibits satisfaction with our sexual relationships.
WHAT TO DO:
Show your interest by taking the first step from time to time. Your partner will likely appreciate it, and you may find a new level of satisfaction in taking responsibility for your sexual experience, something most people feels strongly women must do.
WORRY OVER OUT LOOK:
Thinking about how you look during sex stops you from enjoying yourself and ruins your chances of achieving an orgasm. Don’t think about your fatness or how fat your belly is,or the makeup on your face. Concentrate on the pleasure of the act.You must give yourself permission to have an orgasm and enjoy your sexual fun.
Most men want their wives to abandon themselves in sex play, and that’s not likely if she is anxious about her physical concerns. So get HOW YOU LOOKS OFF YOUR SHOULDER and concentrate on the mean thing and doing them at the right time with the right person as long as he`s turns on by your method.
THOUGHT OF SEX BEING CASUAL:
Some women assumes casual sex with is what men deserves.You should let go of the old-fashioned notions, such as women are not sexual or that sex is just sex to men. No,you don`t reason like that because,for some men, sex is a very important act and there should not be minimize or a limit especially it has to do with one`s partner.
Men and women find sexual intimacy in the context of a committed relationship to be more satisfying.Numerous research studies make it very clear that the people who have the best quality and most frequent sex are married couples. That says a lot about the inadequacies of casual sex. Never assume that a man is not romantic. Two huge mistakes in this culture are that women are not sexual and that men are not as romantic [as women].
NOT KNOWING WHEN HE NEEDS IT
Not being able to know when to disturb or offer your partner sex is one of the factor of" SEX MISTAKES WOMEN MAKE. Sure, most teenage boys are ready and willing just about any time you ask for sex, but not true for men. The pressures of everyday life --family, work, bills -- can zap a man’s libido. This comes as a big surprise to many women, and often his lack of interest in sex is something we take personally.
It comes as such a shock [to women] that they just don’t believe it,especially when their partner says they aren’t in the mood for sex. They know themselves that they are not always interested in sex but they still love the man. But when they discover he doesn’t want to have sex, they think, ‘he doesn’t love me or he`s cheating on her.’ Not true. He just doesn’t want to have sex perhaps he is tired and this you must try to understand.
GUIDANCE
Not giving your partner guidance is one of the mistakes women make. Guidance is one of the ways of achieving a satisfying sexual relationship. Talking very directly about sex, what we like and don’t like can make us sometimes feel uncomfortable, even with a partner we’ve been with for a long time and otherwise feel close to, But it’s one of the ways ways to achieve a satisfying sexual relationship.
RESPONSIBILITIES
Men very much want to please a woman, but the woman must take responsibility for her sexual encounter.No man can bring a woman to orgasm if she doesn’t take responsibility for her sexual experience. Even the best lover can’t know what she needs without her letting him know.You can tell them in a way that doesn’t kill their ego, they will appreciate it and try doing their best to satisfy you.
GETTING EASILY UPSET
Getting easily upset when your man is not yielding to your request or suggestion in an issue which seems right to you,is one of the common mistakes women make. After a couple has been together for a while, it’s natural to want to spice things up with a little variety. Just because your man wants to try something new doesn’t mean he’s unhappy with you or your sex life. Just try and understand him and don’t take it personally.If you do, he could get discouraged and may not not be in the right mood to satisfying you sexual that very moment.
ADVISE TO COUPLES
Nobody should ever feel obligated to do something they don’t want to do in the personal and intimate area of sexuality. If your man asks you about trying something that’s outside of your morals, make it clear that it’s off limits for you and explain why. Of course, do this in a loving way as best you can. If it is something that is not really a moral issue for you but you still don’t want to, again explain why. If it is a simply a startling request and you’re initially uneasy about it, try not to overreact. Instead, let him know you need some time to think about it.”
NOT INITIATING SEX FIRST.
By not initiating sex first with their partner,perhaps in other not to appear pushy or come on too strong for fear of being labeled aggressive,is one of the biggest mistakes women make.
Most guys feel like they are always the initiator and that sets up disequilibrium on the passion scale in the relationship. Generally, men want to be pursued by their partners just as much as women do.Holding onto outdated ideas about sex roles also inhibits satisfaction with our sexual relationships.
WHAT TO DO:
Show your interest by taking the first step from time to time. Your partner will likely appreciate it, and you may find a new level of satisfaction in taking responsibility for your sexual experience, something most people feels strongly women must do.
WORRY OVER OUT LOOK:
Thinking about how you look during sex stops you from enjoying yourself and ruins your chances of achieving an orgasm. Don’t think about your fatness or how fat your belly is,or the makeup on your face. Concentrate on the pleasure of the act.You must give yourself permission to have an orgasm and enjoy your sexual fun.
Most men want their wives to abandon themselves in sex play, and that’s not likely if she is anxious about her physical concerns. So get HOW YOU LOOKS OFF YOUR SHOULDER and concentrate on the mean thing and doing them at the right time with the right person as long as he`s turns on by your method.
THOUGHT OF SEX BEING CASUAL:
Some women assumes casual sex with is what men deserves.You should let go of the old-fashioned notions, such as women are not sexual or that sex is just sex to men. No,you don`t reason like that because,for some men, sex is a very important act and there should not be minimize or a limit especially it has to do with one`s partner.
Men and women find sexual intimacy in the context of a committed relationship to be more satisfying.Numerous research studies make it very clear that the people who have the best quality and most frequent sex are married couples. That says a lot about the inadequacies of casual sex. Never assume that a man is not romantic. Two huge mistakes in this culture are that women are not sexual and that men are not as romantic [as women].
NOT KNOWING WHEN HE NEEDS IT
Not being able to know when to disturb or offer your partner sex is one of the factor of" SEX MISTAKES WOMEN MAKE. Sure, most teenage boys are ready and willing just about any time you ask for sex, but not true for men. The pressures of everyday life --family, work, bills -- can zap a man’s libido. This comes as a big surprise to many women, and often his lack of interest in sex is something we take personally.
It comes as such a shock [to women] that they just don’t believe it,especially when their partner says they aren’t in the mood for sex. They know themselves that they are not always interested in sex but they still love the man. But when they discover he doesn’t want to have sex, they think, ‘he doesn’t love me or he`s cheating on her.’ Not true. He just doesn’t want to have sex perhaps he is tired and this you must try to understand.
GUIDANCE
Not giving your partner guidance is one of the mistakes women make. Guidance is one of the ways of achieving a satisfying sexual relationship. Talking very directly about sex, what we like and don’t like can make us sometimes feel uncomfortable, even with a partner we’ve been with for a long time and otherwise feel close to, But it’s one of the ways ways to achieve a satisfying sexual relationship.
RESPONSIBILITIES
Men very much want to please a woman, but the woman must take responsibility for her sexual encounter.No man can bring a woman to orgasm if she doesn’t take responsibility for her sexual experience. Even the best lover can’t know what she needs without her letting him know.You can tell them in a way that doesn’t kill their ego, they will appreciate it and try doing their best to satisfy you.
GETTING EASILY UPSET
Getting easily upset when your man is not yielding to your request or suggestion in an issue which seems right to you,is one of the common mistakes women make. After a couple has been together for a while, it’s natural to want to spice things up with a little variety. Just because your man wants to try something new doesn’t mean he’s unhappy with you or your sex life. Just try and understand him and don’t take it personally.If you do, he could get discouraged and may not not be in the right mood to satisfying you sexual that very moment.
ADVISE TO COUPLES
Nobody should ever feel obligated to do something they don’t want to do in the personal and intimate area of sexuality. If your man asks you about trying something that’s outside of your morals, make it clear that it’s off limits for you and explain why. Of course, do this in a loving way as best you can. If it is something that is not really a moral issue for you but you still don’t want to, again explain why. If it is a simply a startling request and you’re initially uneasy about it, try not to overreact. Instead, let him know you need some time to think about it.”
DID YOUR PARENTS TELL YOU THIS ?
Did your parents tell you this, because that is what mine told me?
That a stone is enough to break a glass, one sentence is enough to break a heart, one second is enough to fall in love, and one misunderstanding is sufficient to break a relationship.
Friendship is the rainbow between two hearts, sharing two characters, FIRST, "I LIKE YOU", then " I LOVE YOU",
Now i`m afraid to lose you. If you don`t send this to everyone on your list,you may lose the person you love. Sorry i don`t wanna lose the person i love. cheers...
That a stone is enough to break a glass, one sentence is enough to break a heart, one second is enough to fall in love, and one misunderstanding is sufficient to break a relationship.
Friendship is the rainbow between two hearts, sharing two characters, FIRST, "I LIKE YOU", then " I LOVE YOU",
Now i`m afraid to lose you. If you don`t send this to everyone on your list,you may lose the person you love. Sorry i don`t wanna lose the person i love. cheers...
TO LOVE WITHOUT CONDITION
Love has been defined or interpreted in several ways. Many thing has been done or applied as regards to this four letter words "LOVE" to suits those involve.
However, to some people, the best way to love is TO LOVE WITHOUT CONDITION, if the given relationship must withstand the test of time.Any conditional love is never a TRUE LOVE.
To love someone without any condition,talk without any intention,give a gift without any reason, and to care without expectation--is the heart of a TRUE FRIEND.
Sweet words are easy to say, sweet things are easy to buy, but sweet people are difficult to find! Life ends when you stop "DREAMING",hope ends when you stop believing,love ends when you stop caring, friendship ends when you stop sharing. So share this with whom ever you consider a friend or beloved.
However, to some people, the best way to love is TO LOVE WITHOUT CONDITION, if the given relationship must withstand the test of time.Any conditional love is never a TRUE LOVE.
To love someone without any condition,talk without any intention,give a gift without any reason, and to care without expectation--is the heart of a TRUE FRIEND.
Sweet words are easy to say, sweet things are easy to buy, but sweet people are difficult to find! Life ends when you stop "DREAMING",hope ends when you stop believing,love ends when you stop caring, friendship ends when you stop sharing. So share this with whom ever you consider a friend or beloved.
UNHAPPY PEOPLE
DO YOU KNOW; Those who do not sing,
Those who do not dance,
Those who do not engage in any sporting
activities or good time,
Those who do not watch movies,
Those who do not listen to
music, and most especially,
Those who do not laugh are always unhappy?
Those who do not dance,
Those who do not engage in any sporting
activities or good time,
Those who do not watch movies,
Those who do not listen to
music, and most especially,
Those who do not laugh are always unhappy?
CROSS GENERATION RELATIONSHIP, ANY WAY OUT?
Cross genration relationship could be seen as a situation where the older man or woman engages the younger ones, and the younger ones after the older ones in a relationship. This act as expressed by some people is eating fast in this our generation nowadays. Many things have been said and done against this unusual behaviour by many religious leaders and organisations.
They sees it not just IMMORAL ACT,but crazy on the side of our society and if left unchecked, could negate the intellect, aspiration-vision-dream, social and well being of our society especially, on the side of the youths.
However,for those who founds solace in this type of relationship,they sees nothing wronge in it and so, they are proud being part of it in as much they derives fun from it.
Some poeple are also of the opinion that dating younger women has its problem hence, they goes after the older ones. They said older male lover nurtures his ego with his younger lover. This gives him the feeling that though, he is pilling up the age, he still looks young,attractive and sexy enough to win the attention of a young lady.
Though at the back of his mind, he knows that the size of his pause gave him mileage in advantage.
DRESSING: There are also life style of dressing that young people engage in these days, this continues to excite the sexuality and morality ot most people. Unlike those days when people dressed responsibly, you don`t begin to think about sex when you see someone passby you. But nowadays, what do you have? people walk about dressed "TO KILL: all the time.
Go to the restaurants, they are there. In the bus, they are there. At home, they are there. On the newspapers and magazines, they are there. On the television and internets, you see them. No matter how discipline you are, except you have some problems,some of this things will continue to remind you about sex and that it is available.
We are living in a society where sex is almost free for the asking now. Where you don`t ask, the girls themselves will take you on. And in some occasions, some celebrated clergy men and respected members of the society has fallen prey to this monster called "SEX", and it will only take a man of great courage, discipline, and dedication to overcome this.
WHY DON`T MEN GO FOR WOMEN OF THEIR AGE MATES OR OLDER?
This is one of the questions asked by a lady who feels men always go for younger women. Is it because there are no elderly women out there looking for men? Certainly no, some of them do it just because of their ego.In some cases, they take the advantage of the problem in their marriage and engages in post marital infidelity.Some homes living happily with their wives still indulge in this act because they feel it gives then joy. But there are no justification for using this as cause for cross generation relationships. It is just a matter of ego. A stupid inmate desire to satisfy an uncontrolable sexual urge. It is a very big social problem that can lead to social embarrassment.
CROSS GENERATION RELATIONSHIP, The role of age gap: Its always a hot topic to discuss whether age gaps are a good thing or a bad thing. For some people, they simply mean two people who curently have a thing for one another. While some argue that an age gap relationship will never last. Its a fair argument. With an age gap, two people can grow apart very easily as they go through the different phases of their lives. Same thing applies to couples of the same age. One thing to consider is that, most relationships fail at some point anyway. It doesn`t matter if there is an age gap or not, even when some people think its wrong for obvious reasons. In the end, its still a relationship and all relationships will come with their own issues.
Some people are of the view that, cross generation relationships are good because an older man is like a father whan in relationship with a young woman. It may be true, but is there anything wrong with it? "YES", some people will say, because in actual fact, i don`t know of any woman who will want to date her father. However, because a man`s status rises with age, the older he gets, the better in view and behaviour. Women like men who are of high status and high quality, and these makes older men just perfect. As he gets older, he discovers and realises who he is, he is more comfortable with himself and has experience on his side. He can be a better lover because he is more confident. He is a better leader and decision maker.
They sees it not just IMMORAL ACT,but crazy on the side of our society and if left unchecked, could negate the intellect, aspiration-vision-dream, social and well being of our society especially, on the side of the youths.
However,for those who founds solace in this type of relationship,they sees nothing wronge in it and so, they are proud being part of it in as much they derives fun from it.
Some poeple are also of the opinion that dating younger women has its problem hence, they goes after the older ones. They said older male lover nurtures his ego with his younger lover. This gives him the feeling that though, he is pilling up the age, he still looks young,attractive and sexy enough to win the attention of a young lady.
Though at the back of his mind, he knows that the size of his pause gave him mileage in advantage.
DRESSING: There are also life style of dressing that young people engage in these days, this continues to excite the sexuality and morality ot most people. Unlike those days when people dressed responsibly, you don`t begin to think about sex when you see someone passby you. But nowadays, what do you have? people walk about dressed "TO KILL: all the time.
Go to the restaurants, they are there. In the bus, they are there. At home, they are there. On the newspapers and magazines, they are there. On the television and internets, you see them. No matter how discipline you are, except you have some problems,some of this things will continue to remind you about sex and that it is available.
We are living in a society where sex is almost free for the asking now. Where you don`t ask, the girls themselves will take you on. And in some occasions, some celebrated clergy men and respected members of the society has fallen prey to this monster called "SEX", and it will only take a man of great courage, discipline, and dedication to overcome this.
WHY DON`T MEN GO FOR WOMEN OF THEIR AGE MATES OR OLDER?
This is one of the questions asked by a lady who feels men always go for younger women. Is it because there are no elderly women out there looking for men? Certainly no, some of them do it just because of their ego.In some cases, they take the advantage of the problem in their marriage and engages in post marital infidelity.Some homes living happily with their wives still indulge in this act because they feel it gives then joy. But there are no justification for using this as cause for cross generation relationships. It is just a matter of ego. A stupid inmate desire to satisfy an uncontrolable sexual urge. It is a very big social problem that can lead to social embarrassment.
CROSS GENERATION RELATIONSHIP, The role of age gap: Its always a hot topic to discuss whether age gaps are a good thing or a bad thing. For some people, they simply mean two people who curently have a thing for one another. While some argue that an age gap relationship will never last. Its a fair argument. With an age gap, two people can grow apart very easily as they go through the different phases of their lives. Same thing applies to couples of the same age. One thing to consider is that, most relationships fail at some point anyway. It doesn`t matter if there is an age gap or not, even when some people think its wrong for obvious reasons. In the end, its still a relationship and all relationships will come with their own issues.
Some people are of the view that, cross generation relationships are good because an older man is like a father whan in relationship with a young woman. It may be true, but is there anything wrong with it? "YES", some people will say, because in actual fact, i don`t know of any woman who will want to date her father. However, because a man`s status rises with age, the older he gets, the better in view and behaviour. Women like men who are of high status and high quality, and these makes older men just perfect. As he gets older, he discovers and realises who he is, he is more comfortable with himself and has experience on his side. He can be a better lover because he is more confident. He is a better leader and decision maker.
WHAT DOES LOVE MEAN TO YOU?
Love,in this sense of an unlimited kindness towards all others,is held to be the ultimate perfection of the human spirit because it is said to both glorify and reflect the nature of God. It is most extreme such love can be sacrificial.
The word "LOVE" can refer to a variety of diffierence feelings.
Love is of any of emotions and experiences related to a sense of strong
affection( STATES AND ATTITUDE)ranging from generic pleasure to intense interpersonal feelings.
Love is an emotion build from two or more feelings and thoughts about our feelings.
The diversity of uses and meanings, combined with the complexity of the feelings involved, makes love unusually difficult to consistly define,aven compared to other emotional states.
Love could be refer to deep feeling of tenderly caring for another person or Love in its form,acts as a major facilitator of interpersonal relationship.
CAN YOU TELL THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN THE FOLLOWING?
If you are looking for love, would you recognise it if you found if?
*Can you tell the differnce between love and infantuation?
*Between love and attraction?
*Between love and sexual desire?
*Between love and frienship?
*Between sex and intimacy?
*Between a good relationship and one that is only pleasurable?
If you want to learn to love better,
start with a friend who you hate.
When you tell someone something bad about yourself and you are scared he/she won`t love you anymore, but then you get surprised because not only does he/she still love you, he/she loves you even more.
Love is when someone hurts you and you get so mad but don`t yell at that person because you know it would hurt his/her feelings.
The word "LOVE" can refer to a variety of diffierence feelings.
Love is of any of emotions and experiences related to a sense of strong
affection( STATES AND ATTITUDE)ranging from generic pleasure to intense interpersonal feelings.
Love is an emotion build from two or more feelings and thoughts about our feelings.
The diversity of uses and meanings, combined with the complexity of the feelings involved, makes love unusually difficult to consistly define,aven compared to other emotional states.
Love could be refer to deep feeling of tenderly caring for another person or Love in its form,acts as a major facilitator of interpersonal relationship.
CAN YOU TELL THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN THE FOLLOWING?
If you are looking for love, would you recognise it if you found if?
*Can you tell the differnce between love and infantuation?
*Between love and attraction?
*Between love and sexual desire?
*Between love and frienship?
*Between sex and intimacy?
*Between a good relationship and one that is only pleasurable?
If you want to learn to love better,
start with a friend who you hate.
When you tell someone something bad about yourself and you are scared he/she won`t love you anymore, but then you get surprised because not only does he/she still love you, he/she loves you even more.
Love is when someone hurts you and you get so mad but don`t yell at that person because you know it would hurt his/her feelings.
CHANGE YOUR LIFE BY CHANGING YOUR ATTITUDE
Believe it or not, there will be a time in ones
life when nothing would seem to go well for that individual.
You may not regard yourself as beautiful or successful.All
your relationship may seem to be unhealthy...no job,no money,
no quality family communication, your friends may not want to
be bothered with you.
However, you should always have one thing at the back of your
mind which you`ve gotten plenty of," ATTITUDE", of which you
need to change and see things move right for you.
Your attitude towards others leaves much effect on your person.
Your bad attitude leaves negative impression of who you are and
Good attitude leaves positive impression of your person.
If you apply bad attitude, it follows you where ever you go.
The way you comports yourself in the public determines how people
regards you. If you are such that naggs alot, definately people will
be mindfull of the kind of things they discuss with you.
So the question is; Do you argue stupidly or negatively?, are you found
of arguing unreasonably with family members? How do they regard your
contributions to family issues? Do you easily get fussing and having
an issue with someone? If "YES", then pause a while and think again.
If you are such, i want you to know that this behavior might wear on you
and unless you sit down and ask yourself why you lash out all the time?.
What could i change in my life?, it will occur to you that you have to change
your own life.
Listen, you are the reason things are not going right for you.
You are the reason for your unhealthy relationships and unhappy existence.
So set out to change "YOU" in you and your overall outlook on life.
Your personal thoughts are the greatest seeds in your life, begin to revolutionize how your thoughts affects you and others. Stop being a victim and slave to past
hurts and pains and quit replaying the negative perception of yourself planted by others. Stop thinking things like, why don`t i have this or that?, whats wrong with me?, why doesn`t that person like me?.
Stop complaining about your situation because rather than make you feel good and happy, it will make you feel bad, greatly hurted and frustrated.
Begin to realise that your negative thoughts creates negative emotions, negative
attitude, and altimately, a negative person.
I was once a big basketful of negativity, i gradually learned how to let go of the
past and began to walk down the path of forgiveness of myself and of others, and to understand that who i am is OK, gradually, that negative experiences disappeared.
Chose to have a positive attitude and see your past experiences as part of life.
Continue on this path of positivity over your life and you would be amazed how
you life will turn around for better. Having not gotten that particular job didn`t mean you are a horrible person. See it that that job wasn`t meant for you
Always wear a smile face and be the reason for others to smile.I bet you God will
crown your effort with success once you choses to have a positive attitude about yourself and others .APPLY THIS AND SEE FRIENDS, BROTHERS,SISTERS, JOBS FLOOD YOUR GATE AS NEVER BEFORE.
TO YOUR SUCCESS
CHUKA
life when nothing would seem to go well for that individual.
You may not regard yourself as beautiful or successful.All
your relationship may seem to be unhealthy...no job,no money,
no quality family communication, your friends may not want to
be bothered with you.
However, you should always have one thing at the back of your
mind which you`ve gotten plenty of," ATTITUDE", of which you
need to change and see things move right for you.
Your attitude towards others leaves much effect on your person.
Your bad attitude leaves negative impression of who you are and
Good attitude leaves positive impression of your person.
If you apply bad attitude, it follows you where ever you go.
The way you comports yourself in the public determines how people
regards you. If you are such that naggs alot, definately people will
be mindfull of the kind of things they discuss with you.
So the question is; Do you argue stupidly or negatively?, are you found
of arguing unreasonably with family members? How do they regard your
contributions to family issues? Do you easily get fussing and having
an issue with someone? If "YES", then pause a while and think again.
If you are such, i want you to know that this behavior might wear on you
and unless you sit down and ask yourself why you lash out all the time?.
What could i change in my life?, it will occur to you that you have to change
your own life.
Listen, you are the reason things are not going right for you.
You are the reason for your unhealthy relationships and unhappy existence.
So set out to change "YOU" in you and your overall outlook on life.
Your personal thoughts are the greatest seeds in your life, begin to revolutionize how your thoughts affects you and others. Stop being a victim and slave to past
hurts and pains and quit replaying the negative perception of yourself planted by others. Stop thinking things like, why don`t i have this or that?, whats wrong with me?, why doesn`t that person like me?.
Stop complaining about your situation because rather than make you feel good and happy, it will make you feel bad, greatly hurted and frustrated.
Begin to realise that your negative thoughts creates negative emotions, negative
attitude, and altimately, a negative person.
I was once a big basketful of negativity, i gradually learned how to let go of the
past and began to walk down the path of forgiveness of myself and of others, and to understand that who i am is OK, gradually, that negative experiences disappeared.
Chose to have a positive attitude and see your past experiences as part of life.
Continue on this path of positivity over your life and you would be amazed how
you life will turn around for better. Having not gotten that particular job didn`t mean you are a horrible person. See it that that job wasn`t meant for you
Always wear a smile face and be the reason for others to smile.I bet you God will
crown your effort with success once you choses to have a positive attitude about yourself and others .APPLY THIS AND SEE FRIENDS, BROTHERS,SISTERS, JOBS FLOOD YOUR GATE AS NEVER BEFORE.
TO YOUR SUCCESS
CHUKA
Love you can give
There`s a love that only you can give,A smile that only your lips can show,
A twinkle that can only be seen in your eyes,And a life of mine that you
alone can complete.
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LOVE NKOWS...
Love knows no reasons, love knows no lies, love defies all reasons, love has
no eyes, but love is not blind, love sees all,but doesn`t mind... I love you.
NO MATTER HOW
No matter how sad,no matter how sick,i feel better just
thinking of you, but i`m happier each time i send you a
message, because i know i`ll be disturbing you.
CAN I SAY?
Can i say i love you today? if not, can i ask you again tomorrow?
And the day after tomorrow? and the day after that?,because i`ll be
loving you every single day of my life.
A MINUTE
IT takes a minute to have a crash on someone, hours to like someone,
and takes a lifetime to forget someone special like you.
Pleasures of love lasts a moment but pains of love last for a lifetime.
SMALLEST WORD
The smallest word is I, the sweetest word is Love, and the
dearest person in the world is you. That`s why i love you.
A twinkle that can only be seen in your eyes,And a life of mine that you
alone can complete.
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LOVE NKOWS...
Love knows no reasons, love knows no lies, love defies all reasons, love has
no eyes, but love is not blind, love sees all,but doesn`t mind... I love you.
NO MATTER HOW
No matter how sad,no matter how sick,i feel better just
thinking of you, but i`m happier each time i send you a
message, because i know i`ll be disturbing you.
CAN I SAY?
Can i say i love you today? if not, can i ask you again tomorrow?
And the day after tomorrow? and the day after that?,because i`ll be
loving you every single day of my life.
A MINUTE
IT takes a minute to have a crash on someone, hours to like someone,
and takes a lifetime to forget someone special like you.
Pleasures of love lasts a moment but pains of love last for a lifetime.
SMALLEST WORD
The smallest word is I, the sweetest word is Love, and the
dearest person in the world is you. That`s why i love you.
SUPER LOVE MESSAGE,GIVE IT TO YOUR PARTNER
Love is like a cloud,love is like a dream,Love is one word and
everything in between. Love is a fairy come true, because i found Love
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TAKE AN ITEM HOME FOR YOUR LOVED PARTNER TO SEE HOW YOUR LOVE AFFAIRS WILL FLOURISH
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when i found you.span style="font-style:italic;">
TAKE AN ITEM HOME FOR YOUR LOVED PARTNER TO SEE HOW YOUR LOVE AFFAIRS WILL FLOURISH
HOW YOU CAN MANAGE STRESS
Many poeple have in one way or the other encountered or come across this thing called "STRESS", even with others not really sure what they are passing through.
However,here are little information about stress and how to manage it if you finds yourself swimming in any of the symptoms associated with it.
* DEFINITION: Stress could be define as as forces from outside world impinging an the individual. Stress could as well seen as a physical, mental, or emotional response to events that causes bodily or mental tension.
Stress could occur depending on the stressor and the types of changes or events we are dealing with, it can manifest itself physically,emotionally or mantally.
Stress is a a normal part of life that can help us learn and grow. Conversely, stress can cause us significant problems.
Stress releases powerful neurochemichals and hormones that prepare us for action...either to fight or flee.If we don`t take action, the strss response can lead to health problems,prolonged,uninterrupted,unexpected,and unmanageable stresses are the most damaging types of stress.
* SOME CAUSES OF STRESS: In general,stress is related to both EXTERNAL AND INTERNAL factors: This includes the physical environment,your job,relationships with others,your home,and all the situations,challanges,difficulties,and expectations you are confronted with on a daily basis. The body as a whole starts to suffer as a result of a stressful situations. Symptoms can manifest in a variety of ways and vary in their seriousness. The most common physical symptoms is HEADACHES because stress causes poeple to unconsciously tense their neck,forehead and shoulder muscles.
However,long term stress can cause or lead to digestive problems including Ulcer, insomnia,Fatigue,High blood pressure,Nervousness,Excessive sweating, Heart disease, Stroke and even hair loss.
Internal factor determine your body`s ability to respond to,and deal with the external stress-inducing factors. internal factors which influence your ability to handle stress include your nutritional status,overall health and fitness levels, emotional well being and the amount of sleep and rest you get.
Early separation from mother cam lead to altered stress response of the fetus,and perhaps predispose the child to psychiatric illness later in life. Many of our ways in dealing with stress...drugs,Alcohol,,Smoking,and eating habits actually are counterproductive in that they can worsen the stress and can make us more reactive to further stress.
Emotiona: Emotional response are due to stress affecting the mind and include anxiety,anger,frustration,irritability,depression,over reaction to every day problems,memory loss and a lsck of concentration for any task.
Anxiety: Anxiety is normally shown as a response to loss,failure,danger or fear of the unknowm.
Anger: This is a common response to frustration or social stree and can become a danger to other individual if not kept in check.
Depression: Depression is frequently seen as an emotional response to upsetting situation such as illness, failure, or death of a loved one.
Psychological: Long term stress can cause psychological problems in some individual. Symptoms such as withdrawal from society, compulsive behaviors ,eating disorders,and night terrors could be associated with it.
* Managing Stress: Stress can be best manage by regular exercise, meditation or other relaxation technics, structured time outs,and learning new coping stratigies to create predictability in our lives. The management of stress depends mainly on the willingness of a person to make the changes necessary for a healthy lifestyle.
WARNINING: Please be warned that other stress symptoms can be associated with serious medical conditions. The informations on the management and technics on stress in this section are provided as a general guidelines for information purposes only.You are adviced to seek the help of a medical doctor or qualified medical practictioner for your health problems over stress. Make sure you consult with your healthcare provider before making any changes to your diet or exercise.
However,here are little information about stress and how to manage it if you finds yourself swimming in any of the symptoms associated with it.
* DEFINITION: Stress could be define as as forces from outside world impinging an the individual. Stress could as well seen as a physical, mental, or emotional response to events that causes bodily or mental tension.
Stress could occur depending on the stressor and the types of changes or events we are dealing with, it can manifest itself physically,emotionally or mantally.
Stress is a a normal part of life that can help us learn and grow. Conversely, stress can cause us significant problems.
Stress releases powerful neurochemichals and hormones that prepare us for action...either to fight or flee.If we don`t take action, the strss response can lead to health problems,prolonged,uninterrupted,unexpected,and unmanageable stresses are the most damaging types of stress.
* SOME CAUSES OF STRESS: In general,stress is related to both EXTERNAL AND INTERNAL factors: This includes the physical environment,your job,relationships with others,your home,and all the situations,challanges,difficulties,and expectations you are confronted with on a daily basis. The body as a whole starts to suffer as a result of a stressful situations. Symptoms can manifest in a variety of ways and vary in their seriousness. The most common physical symptoms is HEADACHES because stress causes poeple to unconsciously tense their neck,forehead and shoulder muscles.
However,long term stress can cause or lead to digestive problems including Ulcer, insomnia,Fatigue,High blood pressure,Nervousness,Excessive sweating, Heart disease, Stroke and even hair loss.
Internal factor determine your body`s ability to respond to,and deal with the external stress-inducing factors. internal factors which influence your ability to handle stress include your nutritional status,overall health and fitness levels, emotional well being and the amount of sleep and rest you get.
Early separation from mother cam lead to altered stress response of the fetus,and perhaps predispose the child to psychiatric illness later in life. Many of our ways in dealing with stress...drugs,Alcohol,,Smoking,and eating habits actually are counterproductive in that they can worsen the stress and can make us more reactive to further stress.
Emotiona: Emotional response are due to stress affecting the mind and include anxiety,anger,frustration,irritability,depression,over reaction to every day problems,memory loss and a lsck of concentration for any task.
Anxiety: Anxiety is normally shown as a response to loss,failure,danger or fear of the unknowm.
Anger: This is a common response to frustration or social stree and can become a danger to other individual if not kept in check.
Depression: Depression is frequently seen as an emotional response to upsetting situation such as illness, failure, or death of a loved one.
Psychological: Long term stress can cause psychological problems in some individual. Symptoms such as withdrawal from society, compulsive behaviors ,eating disorders,and night terrors could be associated with it.
* Managing Stress: Stress can be best manage by regular exercise, meditation or other relaxation technics, structured time outs,and learning new coping stratigies to create predictability in our lives. The management of stress depends mainly on the willingness of a person to make the changes necessary for a healthy lifestyle.
WARNINING: Please be warned that other stress symptoms can be associated with serious medical conditions. The informations on the management and technics on stress in this section are provided as a general guidelines for information purposes only.You are adviced to seek the help of a medical doctor or qualified medical practictioner for your health problems over stress. Make sure you consult with your healthcare provider before making any changes to your diet or exercise.
YOU ARE A HERO
Who is a hero?, a hero as the name implies could be seen as someone who achieved great success or mark in a spectacular way in a special event.
People indulge in all kind of activities which brings fame and impact positively in the lives of others in other to achieve this greatness. A politician or those who ruled their nations wish to be seen as a hero.The military men,industrialist,bankers,lectures,lawyers,medical practitioners,spots men, students, managers of organisations at all level etc,wish to be seen by their colleaques as a hero.
A SOLDIER who fought gallantly and conquered for the interest of his country against external aggresion are regarded as a hero.
A STUDENT who scored a landmark in a given examination or leads his school to victory in an inter-school quizz/debate competition are honoured with a reward and will always be remembered as a hero who has made the school proud.
In an organization,the ability of a manager to organize and increase productivity in an organization marks him as outstanding and will always be seen as the hero of their time and in some cases recieves an award of excellence from his organization for his gaint stride.
POLITICAL SCENE,The true leader of today are often ragarded as the heros of tomorrow.The role of the political class in producing people who are seen as heros cannot be over emphesized.without the emergence of heros in a given nation,such nation can not be seen or said to be great.
The United State Of America is seen as a great nation today because they were able to produce great leaders who thinks about their nation first and do anything humanly possible to make her strong and great at all angle.
But the question is,"WHO IS A HERO",do you think those confered with the tittle "A HERO" are the only heros of our time? Do you agree to the recognition and awards given to them are well deserved? If so, what are those things they did to deserve such an honor given to them?. Could they have done it without the contributions of other people? and if the answer is "no",why were those other contributors not recognised? Does it mean they are not part of the system? Are they not created by the same God or came from the same state? why will their right due to them elude them?
In football, when a team wins gold medal in a competition,every member of that team is recognised and rewarded with a gold medal. Why is this not practise in other sectors? In the political scene,only a very selected individuals are honored.
What of you,don`t you think you are a hero? consider the things you do,how you struggle to keep your family and organisation going. I think you are a hero, look beyond those people mentioned above and see youself as a hero.
You could be a truck pusher? see yourself as a hero because that is where you earn your living and as well help others survive by the movement of goods and services from one place to another you render to poeple. Just name it,think deeply over your occupation and you will come to the conclution that you are a hero in as much your activities impacts positively in the life of people. SAY TO YOURSLF,' I AM A HERO". because i think you are a HERO.
People indulge in all kind of activities which brings fame and impact positively in the lives of others in other to achieve this greatness. A politician or those who ruled their nations wish to be seen as a hero.The military men,industrialist,bankers,lectures,lawyers,medical practitioners,spots men, students, managers of organisations at all level etc,wish to be seen by their colleaques as a hero.
A SOLDIER who fought gallantly and conquered for the interest of his country against external aggresion are regarded as a hero.
A STUDENT who scored a landmark in a given examination or leads his school to victory in an inter-school quizz/debate competition are honoured with a reward and will always be remembered as a hero who has made the school proud.
In an organization,the ability of a manager to organize and increase productivity in an organization marks him as outstanding and will always be seen as the hero of their time and in some cases recieves an award of excellence from his organization for his gaint stride.
POLITICAL SCENE,The true leader of today are often ragarded as the heros of tomorrow.The role of the political class in producing people who are seen as heros cannot be over emphesized.without the emergence of heros in a given nation,such nation can not be seen or said to be great.
The United State Of America is seen as a great nation today because they were able to produce great leaders who thinks about their nation first and do anything humanly possible to make her strong and great at all angle.
But the question is,"WHO IS A HERO",do you think those confered with the tittle "A HERO" are the only heros of our time? Do you agree to the recognition and awards given to them are well deserved? If so, what are those things they did to deserve such an honor given to them?. Could they have done it without the contributions of other people? and if the answer is "no",why were those other contributors not recognised? Does it mean they are not part of the system? Are they not created by the same God or came from the same state? why will their right due to them elude them?
In football, when a team wins gold medal in a competition,every member of that team is recognised and rewarded with a gold medal. Why is this not practise in other sectors? In the political scene,only a very selected individuals are honored.
What of you,don`t you think you are a hero? consider the things you do,how you struggle to keep your family and organisation going. I think you are a hero, look beyond those people mentioned above and see youself as a hero.
You could be a truck pusher? see yourself as a hero because that is where you earn your living and as well help others survive by the movement of goods and services from one place to another you render to poeple. Just name it,think deeply over your occupation and you will come to the conclution that you are a hero in as much your activities impacts positively in the life of people. SAY TO YOURSLF,' I AM A HERO". because i think you are a HERO.
AN AMBITIOUS WILD DREAM JOURNEY
How would you feel dating a woman who has told you she aspires for a good time than you can offer? would you keep pleading with her even after giving her the best you could with the hope she would understand one day that you realy meant well for her?.Just because both of you are into different field she feels there are better life out there than you can offer.Do you think there is need to try to force her to stay with you when she sees ne future to herself in you? I think the best answer is "NO",she has told you that you are not in a position to give her what she wants from life.Even if you are hurt from what she said,what would you do? Do you commemds her or condemns her for being honest to you?.Changing your carear to suit her wouldn`t make any sense in as much she doesn`t have the type of love you require from a woman to make you succeed in your relationship.
As a man,you require a woman to support your dream and visions,to believe in you,understands what makes you feel happy and unique.The worst kind of life a man can live is to have a woman who doesn`t believe in him,his dreams and visions.
Dare continue dating a woman who openly told you she sees no future in you would diminish you personally if you persist on having her.The truth is, even if you succeed in making her stay,you will never be able to satisfy her or make her feel happy and will only end up struggling against her desires throuhout your life time.
The grass of your vision will never be green as as the grass of her dream.
However,rather than waste your time on a mission without a vision,therby brings pains and sorrow to yourself,let her go,the pains of today would one day dissappear when you finds the right woman who is ready to make you feel happy and achieve your goals in life.Her stands is enough to tell you she is being influenced by another kind of relationship,an attraction that has opened her eyes to many faults she perceives from you. So this is enough for you to start looking for another who would make life easy for you and assist you achieve your desired dreams.
As a man,you require a woman to support your dream and visions,to believe in you,understands what makes you feel happy and unique.The worst kind of life a man can live is to have a woman who doesn`t believe in him,his dreams and visions.
Dare continue dating a woman who openly told you she sees no future in you would diminish you personally if you persist on having her.The truth is, even if you succeed in making her stay,you will never be able to satisfy her or make her feel happy and will only end up struggling against her desires throuhout your life time.
The grass of your vision will never be green as as the grass of her dream.
However,rather than waste your time on a mission without a vision,therby brings pains and sorrow to yourself,let her go,the pains of today would one day dissappear when you finds the right woman who is ready to make you feel happy and achieve your goals in life.Her stands is enough to tell you she is being influenced by another kind of relationship,an attraction that has opened her eyes to many faults she perceives from you. So this is enough for you to start looking for another who would make life easy for you and assist you achieve your desired dreams.
HAVE VISION AND GROW BEING STATEMANLIKE
To live without a vision is to be totally in darkness. Some people failed to reach their peak in life because they have no vision A mission without a vision would bring failure.Could you embark on a journey without knowing your destination or aim of such journey?, of course,you don`t!
Have the ability that you are going to make it despite some difficulties you met on your way.It`s only equiping to face your challanges.Not being able to reach your peak as or when expected shouldn`t make you feel dicouraged in as much as you knows what your journey stands for.
Some people are seen or called "GREAT" because they were able to push forward and saw their vision come through. You could be one of them today if you could have the courage and say to yourself,""I WILL MAKE IT", and pursue it.
SOME TIPS TO HELP YOU ACHIEVE YOUR VISION
ABILITY Being able to articulate what you raely want is one factor that will help you to succeed in life.Believe that the ability is in you and in as much others made it, you could as well make it.
FAITH Being faithful to what you aspire for leads to mission fulfilled.You have to believe in yourself to be able to see your dream come through.Not being faithful means you do not believe in what you are pursuing which might lead to vision unfulfilled.
POSITIVITY Speak,think,eat,drink and sleep on positivity over your ambition.
Never speak or have negative thoughts over your vision,negativity brings failure,while positivity brings success and success to excellence.
RELATIONSHIPThis could mean peer groups, dates,lover,colleques,friends,family,etc.The kind of relationship you keeps is one factor which may make or mar you desire to achieving your vision in life.Remember the saying that;"BIRDS OF THE SAME FLOCKS FLEWS TOGETHER". Get yourself around those who are in a position to help you realise your dream.If you are a student,you do not grow strong and better by associating only with those below your standard,you need those above your standard to grow and see your vision come through.Drop any body or thing which might destroy your vision.
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Have the ability that you are going to make it despite some difficulties you met on your way.It`s only equiping to face your challanges.Not being able to reach your peak as or when expected shouldn`t make you feel dicouraged in as much as you knows what your journey stands for.
Some people are seen or called "GREAT" because they were able to push forward and saw their vision come through. You could be one of them today if you could have the courage and say to yourself,""I WILL MAKE IT", and pursue it.
SOME TIPS TO HELP YOU ACHIEVE YOUR VISION
ABILITY Being able to articulate what you raely want is one factor that will help you to succeed in life.Believe that the ability is in you and in as much others made it, you could as well make it.
FAITH Being faithful to what you aspire for leads to mission fulfilled.You have to believe in yourself to be able to see your dream come through.Not being faithful means you do not believe in what you are pursuing which might lead to vision unfulfilled.
POSITIVITY Speak,think,eat,drink and sleep on positivity over your ambition.
Never speak or have negative thoughts over your vision,negativity brings failure,while positivity brings success and success to excellence.
RELATIONSHIPThis could mean peer groups, dates,lover,colleques,friends,family,etc.The kind of relationship you keeps is one factor which may make or mar you desire to achieving your vision in life.Remember the saying that;"BIRDS OF THE SAME FLOCKS FLEWS TOGETHER". Get yourself around those who are in a position to help you realise your dream.If you are a student,you do not grow strong and better by associating only with those below your standard,you need those above your standard to grow and see your vision come through.Drop any body or thing which might destroy your vision.
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PUTTING OURSELVES AT SERVICES OF OTHERS
Sometimes we complained how unjustly we`re treated by those we thought would show love to us.but the question is ,"who hates who,and why hate rather than love"?.if we continue to complain and cry aloud without taking measures to calm this ugly scenreo,we might end up complaining to eternity.
Not withstanding,if as a speaker,you speak in words which seems to come from God...impacting positively in the life of people, if as a helper you render help as though every action was done at God`s LOVE so that in everything we do He is glorified, if only we could keep a calm and sober mind,above all never let our love for each other grow insincere,"SINCE LOVE COVERS ALL MOST EVERYTHING", If with heart full of love we could welcome each other into our lives without grumbling, like a good steward resposible for all his guest and put ourselves at the services of others,the world will be troble free for us to live.
Not withstanding,if as a speaker,you speak in words which seems to come from God...impacting positively in the life of people, if as a helper you render help as though every action was done at God`s LOVE so that in everything we do He is glorified, if only we could keep a calm and sober mind,above all never let our love for each other grow insincere,"SINCE LOVE COVERS ALL MOST EVERYTHING", If with heart full of love we could welcome each other into our lives without grumbling, like a good steward resposible for all his guest and put ourselves at the services of others,the world will be troble free for us to live.
