UNHAPPY PEOPLE

DO YOU KNOW; Those who do not sing,
Those who do not dance,
Those who do not engage in any sporting
activities or good time,
Those who do not watch movies,
Those who do not listen to
music, and most especially,
Those who do not laugh are always unhappy?
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CROSS GENERATION RELATIONSHIP, ANY WAY OUT?

Cross genration relationship could be seen as a situation where the older man or woman engages the younger ones, and the younger ones after the older ones in a relationship. This act as expressed by some people is eating fast in this our generation nowadays. Many things have been said and done against this unusual behaviour by many religious leaders and organisations.

They sees it not just IMMORAL ACT,but crazy on the side of our society and if left unchecked, could negate the intellect, aspiration-vision-dream, social and well being of our society especially, on the side of the youths.

However,for those who founds solace in this type of relationship,they sees nothing wronge in it and so, they are proud being part of it in as much they derives fun from it.

Some poeple are also of the opinion that dating younger women has its problem hence, they goes after the older ones. They said older male lover nurtures his ego with his younger lover. This gives him the feeling that though, he is pilling up the age, he still looks young,attractive and sexy enough to win the attention of a young lady.
Though at the back of his mind, he knows that the size of his pause gave him mileage in advantage.

DRESSING: There are also life style of dressing that young people engage in these days, this continues to excite the sexuality and morality ot most people. Unlike those days when people dressed responsibly, you don`t begin to think about sex when you see someone passby you. But nowadays, what do you have? people walk about dressed "TO KILL: all the time.

Go to the restaurants, they are there. In the bus, they are there. At home, they are there. On the newspapers and magazines, they are there. On the television and internets, you see them. No matter how discipline you are, except you have some problems,some of this things will continue to remind you about sex and that it is available.
We are living in a society where sex is almost free for the asking now. Where you don`t ask, the girls themselves will take you on. And in some occasions, some celebrated clergy men and respected members of the society has fallen prey to this monster called "SEX", and it will only take a man of great courage, discipline, and dedication to overcome this.

WHY DON`T MEN GO FOR WOMEN OF THEIR AGE MATES OR OLDER?
This is one of the questions asked by a lady who feels men always go for younger women. Is it because there are no elderly women out there looking for men? Certainly no, some of them do it just because of their ego.In some cases, they take the advantage of the problem in their marriage and engages in post marital infidelity.Some homes living happily with their wives still indulge in this act because they feel it gives then joy. But there are no justification for using this as cause for cross generation relationships. It is just a matter of ego. A stupid inmate desire to satisfy an uncontrolable sexual urge. It is a very big social problem that can lead to social embarrassment.

CROSS GENERATION RELATIONSHIP, The role of age gap: Its always a hot topic to discuss whether age gaps are a good thing or a bad thing. For some people, they simply mean two people who curently have a thing for one another. While some argue that an age gap relationship will never last. Its a fair argument. With an age gap, two people can grow apart very easily as they go through the different phases of their lives. Same thing applies to couples of the same age. One thing to consider is that, most relationships fail at some point anyway. It doesn`t matter if there is an age gap or not, even when some people think its wrong for obvious reasons. In the end, its still a relationship and all relationships will come with their own issues.

Some people are of the view that, cross generation relationships are good because an older man is like a father whan in relationship with a young woman. It may be true, but is there anything wrong with it? "YES", some people will say, because in actual fact, i don`t know of any woman who will want to date her father. However, because a man`s status rises with age, the older he gets, the better in view and behaviour. Women like men who are of high status and high quality, and these makes older men just perfect. As he gets older, he discovers and realises who he is, he is more comfortable with himself and has experience on his side. He can be a better lover because he is more confident. He is a better leader and decision maker.

WHAT DOES LOVE MEAN TO YOU?

Love,in this sense of an unlimited kindness towards all others,is held to be the ultimate perfection of the human spirit because it is said to both glorify and reflect the nature of God. It is most extreme such love can be sacrificial.

The word "LOVE" can refer to a variety of diffierence feelings.
Love is of any of emotions and experiences related to a sense of strong
affection( STATES AND ATTITUDE)ranging from generic pleasure to intense interpersonal feelings.

Love is an emotion build from two or more feelings and thoughts about our feelings.
The diversity of uses and meanings, combined with the complexity of the feelings involved, makes love unusually difficult to consistly define,aven compared to other emotional states.

Love could be refer to deep feeling of tenderly caring for another person or Love in its form,acts as a major facilitator of interpersonal relationship.


CAN YOU TELL THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN THE FOLLOWING?
If you are looking for love, would you recognise it if you found if?
*Can you tell the differnce between love and infantuation?
*Between love and attraction?
*Between love and sexual desire?
*Between love and frienship?
*Between sex and intimacy?
*Between a good relationship and one that is only pleasurable?

If you want to learn to love better,
start with a friend who you hate.

When you tell someone something bad about yourself and you are scared he/she won`t love you anymore, but then you get surprised because not only does he/she still love you, he/she loves you even more.

Love is when someone hurts you and you get so mad but don`t yell at that person because you know it would hurt his/her feelings.

CHANGE YOUR LIFE BY CHANGING YOUR ATTITUDE

Believe it or not, there will be a time in ones
life when nothing would seem to go well for that individual.
You may not regard yourself as beautiful or successful.All
your relationship may seem to be unhealthy...no job,no money,
no quality family communication, your friends may not want to
be bothered with you.
However, you should always have one thing at the back of your
mind which you`ve gotten plenty of," ATTITUDE", of which you
need to change and see things move right for you.

Your attitude towards others leaves much effect on your person.
Your bad attitude leaves negative impression of who you are and
Good attitude leaves positive impression of your person.

If you apply bad attitude, it follows you where ever you go.
The way you comports yourself in the public determines how people
regards you. If you are such that naggs alot, definately people will
be mindfull of the kind of things they discuss with you.

So the question is; Do you argue stupidly or negatively?, are you found
of arguing unreasonably with family members? How do they regard your
contributions to family issues? Do you easily get fussing and having
an issue with someone? If "YES", then pause a while and think again.

If you are such, i want you to know that this behavior might wear on you
and unless you sit down and ask yourself why you lash out all the time?.
What could i change in my life?, it will occur to you that you have to change
your own life.
Listen, you are the reason things are not going right for you.
You are the reason for your unhealthy relationships and unhappy existence.
So set out to change "YOU" in you and your overall outlook on life.

Your personal thoughts are the greatest seeds in your life, begin to revolutionize how your thoughts affects you and others. Stop being a victim and slave to past
hurts and pains and quit replaying the negative perception of yourself planted by others. Stop thinking things like, why don`t i have this or that?, whats wrong with me?, why doesn`t that person like me?.

Stop complaining about your situation because rather than make you feel good and happy, it will make you feel bad, greatly hurted and frustrated.
Begin to realise that your negative thoughts creates negative emotions, negative
attitude, and altimately, a negative person.

I was once a big basketful of negativity, i gradually learned how to let go of the
past and began to walk down the path of forgiveness of myself and of others, and to understand that who i am is OK, gradually, that negative experiences disappeared.

Chose to have a positive attitude and see your past experiences as part of life.
Continue on this path of positivity over your life and you would be amazed how
you life will turn around for better. Having not gotten that particular job didn`t mean you are a horrible person. See it that that job wasn`t meant for you
Always wear a smile face and be the reason for others to smile.I bet you God will
crown your effort with success once you choses to have a positive attitude about yourself and others .APPLY THIS AND SEE FRIENDS, BROTHERS,SISTERS, JOBS FLOOD YOUR GATE AS NEVER BEFORE.
TO YOUR SUCCESS
CHUKA